Recently I had the wonderful opportunity to mentor my oldest daughter in a difficult peer situation. There is a boy in her room who has had a hard family life. He has suffered tragedy at the hands of his mother, been placed in foster care, lost a young sibling to death and shifted finally back around to his father. Another mutual friend of his and my daughter’s, out of obedience to his parents demands, ended his friendship with this young man. Apparently the child’s parents felt like this boy was “undesirable” due to his unfortunate family circumstances to be a friend of their son. The young man mistakenly thought that my daughter was the cause of the ended friendship. He began lashing out at her verbally because of his deep hurt. Their homeroom teacher put a stop to some of the behavior, but he was still hurting and placing the blame on my child.

She was having a very difficult time processing this matter and came to me for help and guidance. I told her that he was hurting very much and that Jesus commanded us to love one another… even if that meant the ones that were unlovely to us. She really was struggling with this still. I asked her if, in addition to prayer, she would just start small and do one act of kindness to this little boy each day at school and when that gets very simple, add one more act of kindness per day. She has agreed and is reporting daily.

It has occurred to me that we, as a society, tend to group folks into an “unlovely” category a lot. I have been guilty of this myself. What if we tried each and every day to be kind or comfort just one of those unlovely folks? How would it change that relationship? Would it make a positive difference in that person’s life? Could we be that light on a hill for that human? What if we took it a step further and sought out the “unlovely”? What a ministry!!! Isn’t that exactly what our precious Savior did? Isn’t that what He wants of us? I believe that this could be a beautiful start to a new way of thinking and acting.

I know that you sweet ladies have reached out to those folks at some point or another, but let’s just think on this from a Dyed4you perspective for a moment. What if we could pass the blessing of D4Y  to these so-called unlovely folks? A D4Y Art card, for instance. That would not only be an act of kindness, but also shed a glimmer of hope and pass a possible life saving scripture to that individual. At the very least, we could pray over them. I’ll leave it at that note. I just thought that since it was on my heart, I would share. 🙂 Thank you, sweet lovelies, for allowing me to share in a safe spot.

Father, I ask that You would ignite our hearts with a holy fire. Place Your perfect love in us for each of those that have been labeled as undesirable or unlovely. Give us Your eyes to see them and give us Your love for them. Teach us, Lord, how to seek out those that are hurting that desperately need Your word and Your light. Give us the exact word or message for them. Help us to know exactly what to do or say at exactly the right moment. Let us each one be that city on a hill, that light in the darkness. May we carry out Your will, Father, in Jesus’ name. Amen

Scriptural Support
~This is the message you have heard from the beginning: We should love one another.
If we love our Christian brothers and sisters,  it proves that we have passed from death to life. But a person who has no love is still dead.  We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters. (1 John 3:11, 14, 16 NLT)
~Owe nothing to anyone—except for your obligation to love one another. If you love your neighbor, you will fulfill the requirements of God’s law.  For the commandments say, “You must not commit adultery. You must not murder. You must not steal. You must not covet.”  These—and other such commandments—are summed up in this one commandment: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”    Love does no wrong to others, so love fulfills the requirements of God’s law. (Romans 13:8-10 NLT)
~And this is his commandment: We must believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and love one another, just as he commanded us. (1 John 3:23 NLT)
~I am writing to remind you, dear friends,  that we should love one another. This is not a new commandment, but one we have had from the beginning. (2 John 1:5 NLT)
~Love means doing what God has commanded us, and he has commanded us to love one another, just as you heard from the beginning. (2 John 1:6 NLT)
~Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. (1 John 4:7 NLT)